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Chocalate darling
10-12-2006, 09:16 PM
Is it possible to fall for someone and you have never met or is it wishful thinking or plain ole raw lust
muffdiver13
10-12-2006, 09:22 PM
Is it possible to fall for someone and you have never met or is it wishful thinking or plain ole raw lust
I think it is possible to fall for someone you've never seen. Take this place for instance, we get to know each other just as though we were together, in some ways better. The only mystery is meeting in person to see how the sparks really fly. Don't get me wrong, lust plays a part, just as it does in person. From the male stand point, when we see a beautiful lady, I think it's fair to say thatwe fall in lust first, then get to know her and fall in lust.
It's not much different here.
Chocalate darling
10-12-2006, 09:24 PM
I think it is possible to fall for someone you've never seen. Take this place for instance, we get to know each other just as though we were together, in some ways better. The only mystery is meeting in person to see how the sparks really fly. Don't get me wrong, lust plays a part, just as it does in person. From the male stand point, when we see a beautiful lady, I think it's fair to say thatwe fall in lust first, then get to know her and fall in lust.
It's not much different here.
Point taken :rolleyes:
muffdiver13
10-12-2006, 09:49 PM
Point taken :rolleyes:
I thought we were thinking the same again! ;)
Chocalate darling
10-12-2006, 09:50 PM
I thought we were thinking the same again! ;)
Seems to me we always are! ;) Good thing- very good
muffdiver13
10-12-2006, 09:56 PM
Seems to me we always are! ;) Good thing- very good
I know, i love that about us!
Chocalate darling
10-12-2006, 09:58 PM
I know, i love that about us!
Ditto ;)
DJ Prophetic
10-12-2006, 11:48 PM
Whats love got to do... got to do with it...
Is it possible to fall for someone and you have never met or is it wishful thinking or plain ole raw lust
It is totally possible. Think about when you first meet a new person in "the flesh". Their physical appearance always comes into play. Because they fit the sterotype of your "ideal" partner and if there is some chemistry, lust pops out all over and lust may then be confused with love.
Now think about getting to know someone on a very intense level; their loves; their passions; their dislikes and likes; Do they make you happy; do they make you laugh. You really "know" them before you ever set eyes on them and if they have already captured your heart, well, let's just say that mother nature usually makes the rest happen.
Stud walked into the room; put his arms around me, touched my face and I was lost; totally gone. All the groundwork had already been laid.
HaydenX
10-18-2006, 01:53 AM
For me it always seems to go...
1. Lust (At first sight)
2. Love (After knowing her)
3. Loving Lust (this is the best, that stage where you both know you love each other and can't stop having sex...mmm..mm! good times).
:p :p :p :p :p :p :D :D :D :D :D
(maybe too many emoticons...)
ArkhamWizard
11-02-2006, 01:27 PM
Is it possible to fall for someone and you have never met or is it wishful thinking or plain ole raw lust
You can like someone you never met,you can be intrigued by someone you never met.But,Lust and love you have to at least meet the person.Lust you can say hi hope in bed with them and say see ya.Love is much more..blah blah blah.Either way it is a chemical reaction between the two people that get them to lust and or Love.That is why people may say sparks fly or whatever,that is the chemical reaction.
You can like someone you never met,you can be intrigued by someone you never met.But,Lust and love you have to at least meet the person.Lust you can say hi hope in bed with them and say see ya.Love is much more..blah blah blah.Either way it is a chemical reaction between the two people that get them to lust and or Love.That is why people may say sparks fly or whatever,that is the chemical reaction.
I must disagree with you there. It is possible to fall totally head over heals in love with someone you have never laid eyes on - actually you learn about the inside person and fall in love with them and not what they look like. And they chemistry can definately be there without ever seeing that person and then when you finally do meet - not just explosive - more like a nuclear blast. Been there, done that.
retcop
11-03-2006, 12:43 AM
I have read many times that the only way to know if you "really" love is to fall before you have sex. I think this is a point well taken. Sex can complicate a relationship at times. I definately believe you can fall in love with someone you have not seen in person. ;)
rooster1969
11-04-2006, 01:56 AM
For me it always seems to go...
1. Lust (At first sight)
2. Love (After knowing her)
3. Loving Lust (this is the best, that stage where you both know you love each other and can't stop having sex...mmm..mm! good times).
:p :p :p :p :p :p :D :D :D :D :D
(maybe too many emoticons...)
Total agreement
AlterBabe
11-19-2006, 03:18 AM
I must disagree with you there. It is possible to fall totally head over heals in love with someone you have never laid eyes on - actually you learn about the inside person and fall in love with them and not what they look like. And they chemistry can definately be there without ever seeing that person and then when you finally do meet - not just explosive - more like a nuclear blast. Been there, done that.
Perfect!
Chocalate darling
11-19-2006, 11:39 AM
I must disagree with you there. It is possible to fall totally head over heals in love with someone you have never laid eyes on - actually you learn about the inside person and fall in love with them and not what they look like. And they chemistry can definately be there without ever seeing that person and then when you finally do meet - not just explosive - more like a nuclear blast. Been there, done that.
I agree with you, waiting for the nuclear blast or any kind of blast for that matter :(
ehime
12-25-2006, 03:08 AM
My relationship started with lust, then ended with misery and a kid.
I love my kid, but I want to push my wife down a flight of stairs.
Groucho
12-25-2006, 05:47 AM
Is it possible to fall for someone and you have never met or is it wishful thinking or plain ole raw lust
This happened to me. I still am in love with her. Never met her in person in my whole life. It was a cyber relationship that lasted two whole years.
In my opinion lust is equal to love. It's the same with a sexual partner. Love is only love when it is non sexual, like with your family and kids, but with your husband, for example, when you are in bed with him and your imaginations are racing forward.... you are both lusting. Which is also love.
galador
12-26-2006, 06:42 AM
so many opinions......... I would give an example from my own life if I may???? Hopefully she wont get mad, but I think she wont, so here goes..... I can honestly say I am in lust with Alter.... The things we talk about, the way we fire each other up, all of it is a great way to keep my mind off of the horrible stuff that happens around here, and at the same time, we have become very good firends in the short time we have known each other (at least I think so, hope she agrees). Then there is my ex-wife, through no fault of hers or mine (damn you US Govt!!!!!) was forcefully deported and our marriage anulled.... we were in love. We knew everything about each other, knew all sexual and asexual likes and dislikes, spent all the time we could together, and are still fighting together tryin to get her back to the states to be with her kids..... if she gets back, who knows, maybe we will be able to get back together and have what we had.... in that only time will tell.... hopefully this hasnt strayed to far form the subject and everyone understand what I am saying.... basically, love or lust can happen with never having met someone, its just a matter of feelings and being able to separate them and decide which is which.....
Holy shit!!! I posted in a forum other than the sex forum!!!!!! I Am so going to hell now lol :D
nocturnal emisions
12-26-2006, 08:21 AM
Is it possible to fall for someone and you have never met or is it wishful thinking or plain ole raw lust
I think it is, but these days, I think I'd rather have the lust, cause the love was just too painful these last couple of years.. :rolleyes:
SolarFlare
12-27-2006, 07:19 AM
For me it always seems to go...
1. Lust (At first sight)
2. Love (After knowing her)
3. Loving Lust (this is the best, that stage where you both know you love each other and can't stop having sex...mmm..mm! good times).
:p :p :p :p :p :p :D :D :D :D :D
(maybe too many emoticons...)
Yea I like that too!! Is there a number four? lol
fredfrisco
12-27-2006, 10:29 AM
I think that words are the most powerful aphrodisiac known to man, so I would say that it is certainly possible to fall for someone without having met them. I think that you might lust after them, and you might love what they say to you...and this would lead you to want to feel the same once you finally meet the person and that leads to fireworks. The problem is that many people do not tell truths in the world of forums and chat rooms, they tell people what they think the person wants to hear. And then once they meet, they either stay the same or they change. It is also easier to tell truths in these forums, because...well...in my opinion, you have some level of comfort and safety by not knowing the person in a day to day scenario. It is easy to look forward to visiting with someone that tells you what you want to hear, but try living with that person and typically things will not be so over the top desireable...there could still be sparks, but...reality changes things.