Do you think about your spouse with an ex?

[otter5147]

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[Groucho]

You know what? I think I know what you mean and even feel.

My example somehow differs to yours. YOu see I wish that my wife would be a little bit upgraded into the sexual arena. I want her to do things that I see around here in the internet while she absolutely forbids it for me.

If I would know for sure that she will levil up and make great sex with me, I will sacrifice my self esteme and curb my diginity to allow her to have sex with others.

Oh the love is there, alright. Otherwise I wouldn't stay with her after such long years and three beautiful kids.

That reminds me of that story in which the shoe maker goes about always barefoot....... I have my passions, lusts and desires yet I cannot do too much abour it. :D :confused:

[ecrd]

I just like seeing my wife happy.

Just wondering, do any of you guys out there fantasize a little about your wife being with their ex?
Yep! There is something erotic about it for some men.

[Darnell]

Well both my wife and I were both very active socially before we even met. In fact its part of the reason we bonded. She had (and still does) a way of dressing provocatively that gets lots of attention and the guys she dated didn't like the stares she would get wherease I love it. Its not a threat to me and I encourage it. We've both sown our wild oats so to speak even though we still dabble in the couples scene from time to time but even that is something that has wound down. Interestingly the way we met was we were dating the same woman ! But to answer the question at hand. No. I don't have particular fantasies about her and any of her ex b/fs or g/fs.

[wildcats115]

I kind of posted this before but I will rephrase it?

My wife, before we were married, and before I knew her, had an affair with a married man. She was single, he was married. He would actually have her fly down once a week, and he had his fun. She thought he would leave his wife...but we know how this story ends. Well eventually my wife left him, when she found out he was about to have a child with his wife.

I don't know why...90% of me knows this guy is scum, and will be lucky if I don't slug him with a baseball bat, because all the men out there know he was just using her for sex. Here is the confusing part..why is it 10% of me is aroused of the thought of another man doing my wife. My wife is sweet, but in bed, she can be very expressive. Don't know...she was my first, and still my only. I have no intentions of cheating either. Nor do I want to swing.

I would never never do this. Trust me..it is just in my mind. But I fantasized about contacting the former guy, and letting him know when to contact my wife when I am not home. And I have a fantasy of my wife moaning under another guy. I guess I think it would be him, because I know she would not just sleep with a stranger.

Look..I won't ever follow up on this fantasy. Trust me I love my wife, I don't think of her just as an sex object. I can't imagine my life without my wife, so I would never call him up. I just like seeing my wife happy.

Just wondering, do any of you guys out there fantasize a little about your wife being with their ex?

The way you feel about your wife is very common. My wife is sweet and innocent too, but I constantly fantasize about her being gnag banged, and wish she would f#ck another guy or guys... I even asked her to do it several times, and explained to her why I want her to do it. She declined my requests, but just know that how you feel is very, very common. Most men just never admit it.

[quivers]

My Man is so into this.. next fantasy of his...

He would like a poker party.. me dressed as a french maid serving drinks ect ect..
as the game progresses. he would like me to get under the game table and blow all the guys one at a time. till they blow their load. if they can continue to play while getting blown they win the current POT.. or something to that effect.

what do you men think??? what would you add to this fantasy?

[ceedee]

I can't stand the thought of another man doing anything with my wife.

I would sure love to see her with another woman.

[wjw0608]

what do you men think??? what would you add to this fantasy?
Me. At the poker table.

[wildcats115]

My Man is so into this.. next fantasy of his...

He would like a poker party.. me dressed as a french maid serving drinks ect ect..
as the game progresses. he would like me to get under the game table and blow all the guys one at a time. till they blow their load. if they can continue to play while getting blown they win the current POT.. or something to that effect.

what do you men think??? what would you add to this fantasy?


I think at the end you should let them all gang bang you while your husband watches. I would love it if my wife did that. I'd want to videotape it so I can watch it anytime I want, forever!

[quivers]

well WJW... Is that all you can add? hummmmmmmmm.

[quivers]

I can't stand the thought of another man doing anything with my wife.

I would sure love to see her with another woman.

how does she feel about this idea? have you spoke to her of it?

[wildcats115]

well WJW... Is that all you can add? hummmmmmmmm.


I need a woman's advice. I have asked my wife to be with another man many times, but she says she only wants me. I told her all the reasons I want her to do it, and she understands and isnt offended and knows I only have good feelings for her and good reasons for what I want. She still says no though. Do you think she'll ever change her mind. What can I do to persuade her. I ask nicely, and never make her feel she has to do it.

[quivers]

I think at the end you should let them all gang bang you while your husband watches. I would love it if my wife did that. I'd want to videotape it so I can watch it anytime I want, forever!


would you like to watch your wife fook someone on a cam? If you were on a trip, far away?

[wildcats115]

would you like to watch your wife fook someone on a cam? If you were on a trip, far away?


Absolutely. I am open to anyway she is able to feel comfortable doing! I am totalyl open to anyway she wants, whoever, however, wherever.

[quivers]

I had problems myself, To her it feels like cheating and it's wrong. Your her man and she needs no other. Also she may feel if you want her to be with another, You will want to do the same thing. To her it is not worth it,She does not want you to be with another. So she stays away from this fantasy. If you do not desire being with another woman.. tell her..Does she let you watch her self pleasure?

[wildcats115]

I had problems myself, To her it feels like cheating and it's wrong. Your her man and she needs no other. Also she may feel if you want her to be with another, You will want to do the same thing. To her it is not worth it,She does not want you to be with another. So she stays away from this fantasy. If you do not desire being with another woman.. tell her..Does she let you watch her self pleasure?

I have made it perfectly clear to her that I dont want to be with anyone else, and would even decline it if I had the chance. I only want for her to be with another man.
She won;t let me watch her please herself unfortunately. Shes too shy sometimes. Hence my problem convincing her.

[quivers]

Well Does She Have Any Toys?

[wjw0608]

well WJW... Is that all you can add? hummmmmmmmm.
How about this: Last man, um, standing, gets you for the rest of the evening.....and if you outlast them, they one with the largest pot buys you the best massage you can get.

[wildcats115]

Well Does She Have Any Toys?


Im thinking of getting her one today and breaking it out as a surprise tonight. A nice dildo.

[quivers]

get a chrome egg... it's small not intimadating... smile to her tell her to enjoy herself.
then leave.... her with a porno maybe I love watching porn as I'm playing.
Leaving will be the hard part but she has to be comfortable with herself before she can share it with you.

[quivers]

wjw.. I like this thought!

[wildcats115]

get a chrome egg... it's small not intimadating... smile to her tell her to enjoy herself.
then leave.... her with a porno maybe I love watching porn as I'm playing.
Leaving will be the hard part but she has to be comfortable with herself before she can share it with you.

Thanks Quivers, I appreciate your help.

[quivers]

It's a start.. make it a journey to enjoy for the both of you! expanding your awareness of each other is a great fun loving thing to do.
whatever you do don't rush her, she will go at her own pace. Just love her, support her... just some evenings.. hold her.. stroke her... and fall asleep.

[wjw0608]

wjw.. I like this thought!
I suspect that between my poker skills and your attention to detail I would not last long.....although that's just conjecture regarding you....I have no experience to base that on, just heresay....would love to correct that. Information is power.

[john32810]

I suspect that between my poker skills and your attention to detail I would not last long.....although that's just conjecture regarding you....I have no experience to base that on, just heresay....would love to correct that. Information is power.
poke her skills...good one

[quivers]

I suspect that between my poker skills and your attention to detail I would not last long.....although that's just conjecture regarding you....I have no experience to base that on, just heresay....would love to correct that. Information is power.


keep an open mind for april... his birthday is coming!

[wjw0608]

keep an open mind for april... his birthday is coming!
Except for the 14th through the 20th, april is as open as my mind.

[Hottomalie2]

I know about my husband's past and just found out that he had fuck buddies the first two years we were dating, when I thought we were seclusive. I do not want to see him with another girl at all, especially some of his ex's. There is a reason why they are ex's and I am his wife. I do not want to share him with anyone. When I can get sex from him, I just want it to be about the two of us.

[wildcats115]

Here is how the fantasy has worked out in my mind. Since he is a doctor, I found his address and contact info rather quickly on the net. So I would contact him, and just say I am not sure my wife is completely over you, so I need to know for sure. My wife is free this day at this time, here is how to get a hold of her, you can take this as far as you need to. Just use protection, because the last time you gave her the warts!!

Since I know he was able to seduce her before, and I have a feeling he would know what to say and do again. And from there I just fantasize of her moaning under him.

Its just a fantasy, in the real world, I doubt if anything good can come from this...except I bet he would disagree with me. I am sure he would say it is an excellent idea.


Otter, it sounds to me like you would enjoy your wife with another man, and it doesnt necessarily have to be with him. As a guy who also wants his wife to f#ck another guy, I can sympathize. I think involving the ex is a bad idea. I think you would be worried about her leaving you if she followed up with him, and the thrill of her being with another guy would be overshadowed by the fear of you losing her. Maybe tell her how you feel, and maybe a stranger or someone else you know is the way to go.

[wildcats115]

It is all in the fantasy world. I would never use the ex, not so much because she would leave for him again. He was a chronic cheater and she knew it. Wasted several years of her life, and towards the the end made her feel like a whore. He was the bad boy guy the girls date, and I ended up being the "bland" :) guy the girls end up marrying. I just get to reap the benefits of her "experience"


Good for you Otter, you have the right approach buddy. Good luck!