Frustrated Musician seeks sexual advice

[Pinkyyz]

It seems my x-girlfriend has fucked-up my head so bad,that I can't bring myself to orgasm.It feels like I'm cheating on her even though we've been split up for close to 7 months now.The foreplay and actual intercourse is still awesome,and I don't have a problem satisfing my partner.I'm lucky she is patient with me,it's not a commited relationship,we're just friends who fuck.I can't seem to seperate the emotional side of sex from the physical side.I know I still carry a torch for my ex,but when is it going end?Any feedback would be a relief (release)?!

[queenoftheuniverse]

Dude, I feel for you. Can you bring yourself to climax without your partner? If so, what are you thinking about when you do?

[Pinkyyz]

I used to climax to intimate memories of being with my ex,but I realized that was'nt healthy.Now, even watching porn does'nt get me off! I know I need to get her out of my head,but how?

[queenoftheuniverse]

so she has rented space in your head. hard to get rid of feelings that are deep. you need to disconnect your sex drive to her memories. don't be offended, but have you tried therapy. I found that it helped me when I could not let go of my memories of the ex.

[Pinkyyz]

Therapy would be a last resort.My friends have offered me advice on how to deal,my roomate even said I need to have monkey sex for like a week strait,I might take her up on that one! I need to stop being such a wuss and step up to the plate and get on with my life.Thanks for the feedback.

[JustCurious]

Try to focus on something else every time you think of her... And I would seriously look into therapy, it is nothing to be ashamed about. If you are having that hard of a time, I would seriously do it. It might be the help you are looking for. And be patient, someone else will come along, but you need time first to get over your ex and mend your wounds.......(been there , done that, and recovered :) )