Friend or stranger?

[MrBean]

The misses would like to know what you think. Doing another guy that is a friend or a stranger? We were talking about it and just wondering your dirty thoughts.

[kln]

dont want to ruin a friendship

[TrueWrit]

The misses would like to know what you think. Doing another guy that is a friend or a stranger? We were talking about it and just wondering your dirty thoughts.

Hey, BEAN, it's a tough call, I suppose. ON the one hand, a friend might make either you or your wife feel better (he would most likely alleviate worries about STDs; and he would make one or the other, or both feel more comfortable); then again, a stranger might make one or both of you more comfortable because you won't see them as often (and if you worry about STDs in the case of someone you don't know well -- or someone you do know -- go the protected route and wrap that rascal).

I suppose, like other folks already said, it's gonna come down (no pun intended) to how you _and_ your wife feel about your selves (self confidence) and your sexuality. One would have to be quite confident in the LOVE part of their relationship in order to get that playful (with both partners in the room) where sex is concerned. For folks who don't have that complete confidence (in themselves _and_ their partners), the after effects could be tough.

Long story short: first ask yourselves if you guys feel completely confident in your love for each other. Then, maybe you should entertain a compromise and try this out with a "friendly stranger": someone you and she "meet" via an online forum (or at a bar or party if that's your preference). If you met online, you'd probably want to have a meeting face-to-face first, to make sure the physical is (for you guys) as attractive as the intellectual. Then, just make sure to keep the relationship friendly and warm, but not TOO personal (sharing lots and lots of family details, inviting the guy to your place, whatever). And when you three have sex togther, make sure it's the kind where he wears protection. Providing you guys are secure in your love for each other, _that_ sort of situation might work out best.

Good luck! --TW

[MrBean]

Thanks for the replies. Her and I will be on later to chat. Probably this evening. We were on last night but something came up (hehe). Hope everyone is having a good weekend as we will be trying to get our groove on!

:D

MrBean

[hottdoggn62]

What about trying it with another couple that has experience in it? Let them host and sort of take charge, they'd probably know what's comfortable for first-timers. The chances of a couple being STD free might even be better than a single person. Plus, she gets to do a new guy and you get to do a new girl = win/win situation. :D

[TrueWrit]

BEAN: I actually tried that situation once. I was the invited third party, someone another older couple had gotten to know (before that incident, the closest I had, um, come to a threeway was when, in the Army, another couple hangin out with me and my date didn't have enough money for a room: ended up making love to a blonde while I watched big-busted redhead ride her date in the other bed -- unusual, to say the least).

In any case, the older couple met me at a motel room (we'd corresponded before that). He was a bit shorter than I (the same height as his wife), and rather portly; she was what some might describe as "roamy," but she had beautiful blue eyes, a pretty face and very dark, lovely tannned skin. After a bit of talking, she said she was comfortable and leaned over to kiss me (her husband was on the other bed, watching). In retrospect (then and now), I suppose I imagined it would be a real turn-on (as everyone knows, reality doesn't always live up to fantasy). And as far I was concerned about the wife, she _was_ a turn-on -- didn't matter that she wasn't thin, or didn't have big breasts or whatever. She was multiorgasmic, and it was obvious (as soon as we started kissing) that she was _truly_ turned on by anything and everything that had to do with sex.
We made love in nearly a dozen positions: her giving me head, me goind down on her, me on top, her on top, lying on our sides, doggystyle, standing up and leaning agains the bed, her upside down with her head near the edge of the bed while giving me head -- and it was all great. She felt great, everything she _did_ felt great, and (unless she was really good at faking -- which is always possible, I suppose) she had a great time too, mumbling things like "oh, shit, here I cum again," etc.
And while the husband _did_ eventually join us for a short time (letting his wife give him head and then having her turn around and to the "reverse cowgirl" thing while she took me in her mouth and let him finish inside her pussy), I gotta say that all of the watching made me uncomfortable. It wasn't that I couldn't perform; I just felt weird and couldn't finish. I've always been a 45-60 minute guy at least; so after he finished, and she washed off and came back; things stretched on for another hour (I was beginning to feel bad). Anyway, he said something about going out for a smoke and while he was gone she encouraged the slipping of my finger into her anus while we fucked doggystyle; and then, when I put my dick near her ass and asked if she was interested, moaned, "yeees!" and "I hope ___ doesn't come back before we finish." He didn't.

But (no pun intended), the thing is, I still felt...weird...about the fact that the guy was watching me have sex with his wife most of the time (I know I'm gonna be pilloried by most of the guys on the forum for saying it, but...it's true!) It wasn't that bad when he joined in cause I felt less like a gigilo; but, for me, being watched by a third party just didn't cut it.

I guess my point -- and I do have one as Ellen Degeneres would say -- is that there may be other variables to consider. And even other obstacles to living out your fantasy. Never thought I'd say this but, perhaps some fantasies should stay just that. While I'd happily lie down with a just about any woman -- of any age, creed, size or color again -- I'm pretty certain that a three-way (for real) with another guy and a woman wouldn't be of interest to me...

...now if it was with two women (CLEO, SWEET? You guys paying attention), that'd be a different story! :p :D --TW

[tjusa]

Never experienced a couple before, but im handsome & fit & in St.Louis if you two would like to get together.