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[mr7man]

Originally Posted by Wet Orchid Lady

Hello Guys,

I really have a lot of questions. I have found this whole post to be very interesting but has also made me think. Here just a few.

So what ever the reason we cheat at some point is not the issue. What interests me is with whom.

Can anyone give me insight to the difference of a hookup or just hiring a professional?

I would think that a hookup if it becomes regular could go very wrong. Stalking, blackmail, treat of exposure.

Whereas a professional knows exactly what the end result is. Is there strictly for your pleasure. Could also become a regular if you feel your both a good match.

Would love to know...........

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Exactly my point, Wet Orchid Lady. A long time ago, I tried a hook-up with some married lady. We were supposed to meet at this little motel, but her hb hacked into her email and started sending me threatening emails. I can only imagine what might have happened if I showed up and he answered the door at the hotel with a bat or something else!- so it was NEXT! Then another married woman gave me her phone # and said to call her at such and such time. Well, her HB's schedule changed and HE answered the phone. When he heard is was a guy, he flipped out and kept calling me back, so I had to change my number. Those 2 brushes with disaster pointed me towards pros. Now I try to get as much info on an escort way before I attempt a meeting. I check a few reliable(as they can be) escort review sites to see if she's easy to deal with, affordable, does she practice safe sex, and if her offerings are in-line with what I need/want at the time. Age is not so much and issue, although I have found that the older ones are great at making me feel comfortable and generally don't rush things and definitely know how to please. Sure I love a nice, young, hardbody once in awhile, but haven't found one just yet that I'd consider repeating with. I like to keep a few options, but mainly see just one or two regularly because there is good chemistry between us. Sure if I had found a married woman, it could cost about the same for a hotel room, but then thay want to be entertained so add dinner and a movie or shopping and it can get very expensive. Then there's always the risk that they want more time from you and want to text or call randomly and start taking risks with your personal life and then it can get ugly. At my age, I don't need any hassles, std's or legal problems. I believe in the longrun, $100-200 a pop is waaay cheaper and less hassle. Now there are far more expensive escorts that I would love to sample, but not on my budget. Maybe someday if I win the lottery! HA! Plus I never feel judged by an escort. They know that they are there to make me happy-period. No attitudes, egos, pressure to perform, etc. I know that I'm always going to come home satisfied- usually more than I had expected too. I have had the pleasure of finding 2 really great ladies. We are like old friends now and its always great to see them again.

[Gooblaster]

Originally Posted by Wet Orchid Lady

Hello Guys,

So what ever the reason we cheat at some point is not the issue. What interests me is with whom.

Can anyone give me insight to the difference of a hookup or just hiring a professional?

Although I am not in a monogamous relationship and therefore not a cheater I have experienced both hookups and rentals.

[i]A hookup (I'm thinking pickup at a bar or similar situation) is not a gaurantee of sex. The cost may be minimal occassionally but on an average you are really paying through the nose. Dinners, booze, party favors, cabs, entertainment, hotel rooms, and the like add up. There is also an investment in time. If you enjoy the company of the woman you are trying to pick up and/or you enjoy the activities you are participating in the cost may be easier to justify. If you are only spending the money to get laid you may find an escort less costly. With a hook up you get the thrill of the chase if that is your thing. You also avoid the stigma of paying (directly) for it.[i]

I would think that a hookup if it becomes regular could go very wrong. Stalking, blackmail, treat of exposure.

One must pay attention to the character of the person he/she chooses to cheat with. One of my buddies only sleeps with married women "'cuz they know how to keep their mouths shut"!

Whereas a professional knows exactly what the end result is. Is there strictly for your pleasure. Could also become a regular if you feel your both a good match.

Pros are there to make money.

Would love to know...........

My 2 cents!

[Gooblaster]

Fuck. I fucked up the italics

[richdon03]

Originally Posted by richdon03

So the result is that it was a good date. Met at a local eatery, after way too many e-mails and liked what we saw. We went to a local motel and really had a great time and parted ways. She was a couple of years my junior and very attractive, actually. when you consider how close we live to each other, it's kind of surprising our paths have never crossed. This is a very small state.

Sad thing is that I've discovered I have this issue with guilt that I have to overcome. Was it money well-spent? Absolutely. would I do it again? Not so sure. Damn this thing called a conscience.

LOL! That didn't take long. Had round two! Lovin' Ashley Madison!!

[Pacguy]

Sad when our society today have outlet and site for them to go and cheat on their spouse , go get a divorce and move on ...

[richdon03]

Originally Posted by Pacguy

Sad when our society today have outlet and site for them to go and cheat on their spouse , go get a divorce and move on ...

Sometimes, a divorce is not necessary, or the timing is just not right. In any case, you're entitled to your opinions.

[AZGUY555]

I will not get involved in the first place unless there are clear ground rules, so that has always kept the drama low. One of my first questions is have you done this before? If the answer is convincing, I know they are not going to be careless and create a mess without any backup plan. ...and no I am not delusional, I know things can still get blown up. Guess that is why my preference are couples. The two couples' women that I have play dates with are 100% in the open, whether that includes their hubby or not.

That all said; the biggest problem I have encountered with affair-type relationships is emotional attachment in the long term. I currently have emotional issues with a couple I have known for over 3 years. She is awesome fun, but when we get together ALONE she has gotten VERY clingy. Sort of in a good way, but also sets off some alarms. I have thought about it, but can't bring myself to end it as she gives the best head in the west.

[AZGUY555]

Originally Posted by richdon03

Sometimes, a divorce is not necessary, or the timing is just not right. In any case, you're entitled to your opinions.

Perfectly stated!

I would add that sometimes, the outsider can help the couple in the long run.

[richdon03]

Originally Posted by AZGUY555

Sort of in a good way, but also sets off some alarms. I have thought about it, but can't bring myself to end it as she gives the best head in the west.

When we were swinging, that's why my wife didn't want a regular set of "close" friends. That's always a big risk.